The "N" Word

Originally Posted 20 September 2011
Before I get started let us make something clear so there is absolutely no confusion. When I refer to the “N” word I am revering to the word nigger. This word in this post does not reflect a person, people, a race, someones individuality, any place, or anything else you can dream up to associate the nigger with. Are we all crystal freaking clear? I hope so! From this point forward, the “N” word will be replaced with the word, nigger. This will be your last opportunity to turn back, from this point forward you may not like what I have to say. I will not apologize for the opinions contained below.I grew up on the southwest side of Houston Texas. I was raised in a home where people were treated like humans and not animals. I was raised to respect everyone, no matter what, respect that person. As an example, I may hate what you say or what you stand for but I will respect you all the same. I did not grow up hearing friends and family refer to others as niggers. My first recollection of hearing it was in high school. I went thru high school in the mid 80’s. Everybody attended this public high school, but everybody was not treated the same way, that had little to do with race, but more of economic status. I came from an average income family, where enough to pay bills and put food on the table and keep clothes on everyone was what we had. We were not at the top of the food chain, but not scaling on the bottom either. What’s my point? To show that I came from a background where everyone had to work in order to survive.

As I got older, graduated high school, and attended college in northern Texas, the word nigger was commonly said, no matter what your race was, you said it. This is where I got my first dose of stomach churning racism. This is where I learned that nigger was a dirty word, this is the place I learned that “ALL” black people were niggers. New to me, I thought we were all Americans. I thought slavery and racism died long ago. Wrong, dead wrong. So far from being right that you all need a shovel to ever get back. I didn’t care then what color skin my friends had. Should it have mattered? Why would it matter? I started to be treated a little different based on the fact I had friends that were not white. I used to separate myself from the racists, black and white, back then. It is still my rule of thumb now. It is what I teach my children. Your color does not matter, you are a human, period.

Moving on. While I was in college, I married my high school sweetheart. At our wedding, I found out that her dad is probably the most racist person I had ever met. When he found out “that we were having niggers attend the wedding” that he would not be attending. Really? Who will walk your daughter down the aisle? I guess, looking back, it was fortunate that he did walk her down the aisle and did stay for the ceremony. Our guest list did not change, he was convinced to deal with it by his wife if they were going to continue to be married. Shorty afterwards, I joined the United States Air Force (USAF) where I was taught yet another lesson in life, there is only one color in the military and it is GREEN. I like this concept. I still saw racism, I still heard black people called niggers, white people called crackers, and Hispanics called beans and wetbacks. The name references flew all ways some of the times, in the conceited little circles of friends who wanted to fit into a group. My group was green, everyone was welcome no matter what. Unless you started spewing your racist remarks, then we were done.

After I retired, I entered back into the “real” world, the world where nothing is sacred and everything is taken advantage of. I moved back to a town in northeast Houston and I thought life was going pretty good. I listen to a pretty select set of music, 99% of which consists of all types of metal. My oldest daughter fell into the same trend, my younger daughter fell in to the hip hop and dance kind of music, and my son went country on me somewhere. I always consider my self to be pretty open minded to the coarse language found in music and you really can’t offend me in any way, shape, form, or fashion. Or so I thought.

I have always had a problem with different groups of people who feel the need to hyphenate another country with being an American. Two that are popular here are Mexican-American and African-American. People who do this are just plain stupid in my opinion, you live in America, you are an American. It is super simple and there are no ifs, ands, or buts about it. You are an American. Why they feel they need to hyphenate? The answer I get always is it preserves their heritage. Really? What a dumb excuse, and I mean that from the bottom of my heart.

And now, we will talk about the word nigger. It is a word. Because I am white does not mean I cannot use it. Nigger is just a word, a stupid word that should be buried somewhere deep and erased from the face of the planet. But wait. It can’t go away, because black people have it so ingrained into their own language that it wont go away. It is in their daily use of language and also in their music. See this link for an example: and tell me how great a song you think that is. That is mild, oh so mild compared to what you can find on your own, makes my stomach churn. It is not the white man calling black people niggers, it is the black people calling themselves niggers and telling the whites that they are not allowed to use the word because it offends blacks. What? At this rate, racism in the United States will never disappear, ever. Black people will not let racism fade into history. Why? We will never know.

Mt comments shotgun blasted all blacks and all whites. I do not refer to all of any group, the terms were used in general. You are who you are and think what you will think. Be grown up while not reading between the lines of what I say here today. I speak for me, for what I see, read, and hear. If any part of this offended you, good, that means you are thinking. In my world, in my house, in my family, we are Americans, period. Many of you disagree with me already, thinking to yourselves that its more complicated than what I have said, it just isn’t that simple. Really? It is simple, the word nigger, in any form it is used, for whatever it may be used for, is being racist. I don’t give a rat’s ass who uses it, it is derogatory and demeaning. Think about it the next time you say it, read it, or hear it being said. Just take the time to think before you say nigger and ask yourself………………why do I need to say it?